Older Men and Younger Guys...Some Thoughts!
9/18/2010 | Posted by Da Seekah | Edit Post
While ruffling through the web i came across this post (below) about older men seeking younger guys , particulary in interracial relationshps.
I was online, the other day, checking my inbox on Adam-4-Adam, when I saw yet another email from a older guy in his mid forties. For a while now, I've been thinking about the whole "age" thing when it comes to the Gay community, Gay men in particular. Being the keen social observer that I am, I've noticed a particular pattern where older Gays eroticse the younger generation of Gays. I've witnessed it first-hand, both over the Internet and in social settings. I might not be into older men, but that doesn't stop them from sending me emails via whatever dating site I might be using. In any given week, I receive at least fifteen messages all from men between the ages of 35 to 55.
I got to thinking about my generation of gay men, "Generation Y". Will we share the same fate of "Generation X"? Will we find ourselves still going to "twink" bars and looking for "love", on the Internet, well into our forties and fifties? I would hope not. Seeing that we have the reality of Gay Marriage in our grasps. But, sometimes I just wonder. Source
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5 COMMENTS:
Older men ask because some younger men say Yes. The social "norm" of two mates being around the same age is another relic of necessity from agricultural times, when the husband had to work the fields to support the children, then the children would eventually inhert the farm and care for aging parents (if they lived that long).
Relationships are about more than that now, and they are also about more than what looks appropriate to judgmental outsiders. The gay community has always, by its own nature, challenged the boundaries of social acceptibility. What's sad is that, with all the positive change occurring before our eyes (and some of us are actually involved, btw), passive aggressive attacks like the one above come from our own kind. Proclaiming what we "should" be doing at any age, race, etc., is actually a move toward the social conservatism a la Palin you claim to be against.
So, the question may be, why in the world would an older gentleman who has lived through the changes in the past 10, 20, 30 years be interested in someone of any age who has such a nearsighted, self-hating point of view?
I agree here. You forgot to mention an important thing. Younger men basically want a sugar daddy and i think some older guys approach them with that mind set.
The writer is obviously so narcissisic and self-absorbed he doesn't realize why he's stuck cruising and fending off older guys in places like Adam and twink bars to begin with: because he's narcissistc and self-absorbed. Good luck finding that marriage with 5 kids in those places, snot. Meandstephen is right: while you're cruising the sex clubs looking for "love" - just not from guys more experienced than you, heaven forbid - a lot of us are out there DOING something about the Palins in the world. They don't go away and "sit somewhere" on their own while you're sipping you appletini and judging from the sidelines, tchotchke. There's actual WORK involved. YOU'RE WELCOME.
This writer has a lot of hard lessons in maturity in front of him, starting with expectations. If you want to hear the laughter of God, make plans.
I think you should have actually read what was written instead of skimming it over with your eyes and coming up with your own colclusions. The writer was not implying anything he said those are questions that he sometimes think about. It's the general reality of some situations i.e some older men like younger guys and vice versa. I'm not saying anything is wrong with that...and i am one of those that's fighting against the Palin regime.
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